I am so far outside my comfort zone right now! You know the feelings that come with being outside the comfort zone, I am sure….
A little bit of fear.
Excitement at the prospect of something new.
Unsure of what’s going to happen next.
Feeling as though I don’t know anything about anything.
A touch of awkwardness.
The glimmer of endless possibility.
I feel as though I have no idea what I’m doing! I’m programmed to believe that if I’m not reporting to a job than I have no purpose. As though my identity and worth is attached to a paycheck from someone else.
My comfort zone looks like:
I’m most comfortable when I know what’s happening and what my next move is. I’m sure many of you can relate to. I want to know where the money is coming from, who I have to interact with or share space with, where I’m getting my groceries, which coffee shop I will frequent and so on. That’s where my control shows up.
The funny thing is that even though a routine of perceived security is a comfort zone, I found myself railing against it while I was trapped in it. This was most prevalent during the last 6 months of my life when the comfortable but routine life we were living really started grating on us.
I’ve repeated this pattern over and over in my life by staying in jobs and relationships I had long since outgrown just because they were familiar and comfortable. I stayed in behavioral and emotional patterns for the same reason. For me, it was easier to stay in the safe protection of sarcastic disdain towards the world than to open up and be vulnerable. This was because vulnerability was unknown to me for many years. I stayed in bartending jobs that sucked my soul dry because I falsely believed that was the only source of income for me. Again I’m sure plenty of you resonate with this.
Step outside your comfort zone
Here I would like to share some words of wisdom about comfort zones so the next time you think about stepping outside yours, you can remember these words and take that step.
- “The comfort zone is the great enemy to creativity; moving beyond it necessitates intuition, which in turn configures new perspectives and conquers fears.” ~Dan Stevens
- “It’s good to feel stupid sometimes and do things that are out of your comfort zone.” ~Mary-Louise Parker
- “Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” ~Brian Tracy
- “Be willing to step outside your comfort zone once in a while; take the risks in life that seem worth taking. The ride might not be as predictable if you’d just planted your feet and stayed put, but it will be a heck of a lot more interesting.” ~Edward Whitacre, Jr.
- “I have stepped outside my comfort zone enough to know that, yes, the world does fall apart, but not in the way that you fear.” ~Tan Le
- “I want to challenge you today to get out of your comfort zone. You have so much incredible potential on the inside. God has put gifts and talents in you that you probably don’t know anything about.” ~Joel Osteen
- “I’m continually trying to make choices that put me against my own comfort zone. As long as you’re uncomfortable, it means you’re growing.” ~Ashton Kutcher
- “What I find really interesting is to try and mix it up, to push myself and try different things. I don’t want to stay in my comfort zone. I want to take risks and keep myself scared.” ~Michael Fassbender
- “Adventure should be 80 percent ‘I think this is manageable,’ but it’s good to have that last 20 percent where you’re right outside your comfort zone. Still safe, but outside your comfort zone.” ~Bear Grylls
- “As you move outside of your comfort zone, what was once the unknown and frightening becomes your new normal.” ~Robin S. Sharma
Nothing grows in comfort zones and everything you’ve ever wanted is just outside the parameters of yours. Had I stayed in my comfort zone I would still be reporting to a 9-5 gig. One that came with a 40 minute commute in traffic each way that payed me well but sure wasn’t filling me up on a soul level. I’d be stuck in a crappy apartment in the city where we were paying too much for a crumbling one bedroom place where we had to battle for parking every time we came home.
I’d be sitting behind a desk daydreaming about the moment I would be able to break free from the grind. Instead I’m on my way out to Joshua Tree with my husband and our dogs for a few days in nature. We just decided to go this morning because now we are the creators of our own reality,
We get to call the shots in our life.
It’s all waiting just outside the comfort zone!