What do you currently have a connection with in your life? What are you really connected to?
Name a single thing that you have forged a deep and ongoing connection with!
I’m going to let you in on a frightening fact: We are more connected now than we have ever been, yet we have less of an actual connection than we’ve ever had.
Right now, we have the ability to chat with anyone, anywhere on the planet.
Internet, satellite phones, email, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook! We can take a photo of ourselves standing on a rock on a tropical island, in the middle of the Pacific Ocean and within minutes thousands of people all around the world have seen the photo, started liking and commenting on it. We make ourselves available to our friends 24 hours a day. Right now, we can hop on a plane and within less than 24 hours be literally anywhere in the world. Our ability to reach out to anyone, anywhere has never been so powerful.
Yet how many of us actually know the first and last name of our neighbor? How many of us see someone from our “friends list” at the mall and don’t actually go up and say hello. How often do we reach for our smart phones upon waking, even before saying good morning to the person sleeping beside us? I actually rather enjoy sitting in a cafe or restaurant and observing how many couples are enjoying a meal together over their social media feeds.
I’m going to pose a very applicable yet very challenging concept for you. These things that are keeping us “connected” are actually keeping us from CONNECTION!
How is being connected different from having connection?
The idea is actually rather simple. In keeping ourselves perpetually stuck in our smart devices so as to stay abreast of what’s happening in the world, we are leaving behind our humanness; the part of us that wants to be seen, spoken to, heard and touched. Being connected is all about knowing what’s happening outside of ourselves. Knowing what others are doing and what is occurring in the world. Having connection is what occurs when elements of the world outside of us reflect aspects of our own selves back at us for observation.
So the question begs to be asked, why is this connection so important? The reality of this world is that we are all a deep reflection of one another. In our connection to the natural world and to others, we can see aspects of ourselves that need work. If we are not paying attention to that reflection, we stop working on ourselves. Self improvement comes to a grinding halt. Beauty is ignored. We become little more than production line robots.
Our very humanness is dependent upon our connection; without it we are all dying a slow and painful death. Without connection, we are dis-eased and the symptoms of the disease are rife in the modern world. Addiction, depression, hoarding, anxiety, general uneasiness. Our constant striving for the next “thing” that we must have, own, possess, conquer. The need to be better than, stronger than, faster than, own more than, have more money than… These are ALL symptoms of the dis-ease.
The dis-ease is that we are not connected.
Even cancer is a disease resulting from our lack of connection. There is no explicable reason for our own cells to turn rogue and start destroying us from within. If lack of connection is all about not observing the reflections that the world around is trying to show us, then what better way to grab our attention.
I would like to propose a solution. In this incredibly fast paced world where if you don’t keep up, you get swept behind, let’s all take a moment. Start small and keep it manageable. For 10 minutes a day somewhere in the middle of the day, stop what you are doing, close your eyes and take 5 deep breaths. Open your eyes and notice the world around you. Make eye contact with a coworker, friend or family member. Smile. Actually see the color in the flowers that are blooming so as to be recognized. They too are a reflection of you, working hard to show you your own innate beauty.
Recognize that what is happening around you, is a reflection of what is occurring within you. In doing so, not only do you reconnect with the world and those you share it with…
You reconnect with yourself too!