Yes, it is possible for you to become an unfuckwithable empath. An empowered being who is not overwhelmed by every little energy stream you come into contact with. I know it’s possible because I am living it. But before we get to that, allow me to briefly tell you a little bit about my life before I became an unfuckwithable empath in order to show you just how possible it is for you too.
Before I was an Unfuckwithable empath…
I was a hot mess.
I spent 32 years of my life running. I didn’t even know I was an empath until then. I just thought the constant knowledge of everyone else’s thoughts and feelings, and the constant downloads of energetic information about places were normal. I thought that I was as transparent to others as they were to me. It turns out I was wrong.
But before I knew about all that I lived in a constant state of overwhelm. And when I say overwhelm, I mean overwhelm. The type of overwhelm that only heroin could fix. No joke. I was a strung out heroin junkie by age 18 because it was the only thing I found to numb the barrage of pain that I was drowning in since what seems like birth. When I revisit my childhood years the only internal emotions I can connect with are anxiety, fear, frustration, and panic. And for some reason, as a child, I felt that I had to hide these heavy emotions so I learned very early to smile and be kind and courteous despite the fact that the world and its people scared the shit out of me!
So that’s my first 32 years in a nutshell: frustration, anxiety, overwhelm, lack of understanding, disconnection, fear, addiction, cancer, and depression. #Winning right?I was defintely nowhere near an unfuckwithable empath.
Now as I said before because I didn’t know that my level of clairsentience and empathic abilities were so much higher than regular people, I assumed everyone saw through me the way I saw through them. This led me to build up a very thick wall around my heart and soul because I had a big old pack of carried shame that I was also dealing with. So I thought that if you saw into me the way I saw into you, that you would immediately know there was something really wrong with me.
That something wrong was my emotions! They scared the sh*t out of me. And that, dear readers, is exactly what fueled my quest for oblivion as well as my cancer at age 26.
But enough about me! Let’s get to YOU. I want you to know that whatever level of overwhelm you are currently at, there is a way out and you can take your power. Being empathic is not a curse. It is a gift if you own it. That’s the key though….. Owning it.
So are you ready to own it? If so keep reading and let’s discuss how you can do this.
But first, let us define unfuckwithable.
The Urban Dictionary defines it as:
My question for you now, empaths, is do you currently feel like an unfuckwithable empath? I’m guessing that many of you do not. And I know this because I feel you and I see you. I see you every day on facebook sharing about your overwhelm. I see you ensnared in the net of being a victim of your empathic power and I remember what that felt like. But you know what? Your overwhelm no longer overwhelms me.
Want to know why? Can you imagine not being overwhelmed by what others are feeling? It’s possible.
But you’re going to have to do some work. You’re going to have to dig into yourself and start facing all those unhealed emotions within yourself. It’s because we carry around a bunch of unhealed pain and trauma inside of ourselves that we can’t bear to see it in others. It’s not their pain and energy that is so taxing. It’s the fact that their pain and energy is reflecting something back to us that we have not healed within.
So the overwhelm doesn’t come from anyone else’s energy or emotions. It comes from the fact that we have unhealed icky stuff within that we are refusing to look at or acknowledge. 4 years ago I made a choice to take my life back and I dove in deep and started digging up all the painful emotions I had been carrying around for 32 years. I faced them. I felt them. I wrote the sh*t out of them. And I released them. Now I can stand in the face of anything and not crumble because it’s no longer reflecting my own pain back to me.
Let me clarify one thing about being an unfuckwithable empath.
This isn’t to say that I don’t still feel all the stuff from others. I do. And sometimes I cry for them. Sometimes its really intense and I feel the sadness. This especially happens with land memory for me. But that’s the difference now… I cry for them, not with them because I see myself in them. Which also means that I don’t take anyone’s stuff on. I’ve quieted my ego which will loudly tell the empath that we are responsible for healing everyone else. But this is yet another falsehood to keep us from looking within. We only think we need to heal everyone else because they are a reflection of us and we are calling to ourselves to heal.
So how do we heal?! That’s the question, I’m sure!
First and foremost, we dig! We feel. We face. Maybe we go to rehab, therapy, or find a life coach. At Hug Your Chaos, we specialize in empowering empaths and taking them through unf*ckwithable school.
We run an intensive 3-month coaching program that brings everything that you need to heal, empower, and find your purpose in one place, while also offering massive support and accountability for the journey! Interested in The Unfuckwithable Program for Overwhelmed Empaths? Good! We’re now enrolling for our September semester! Schedule your interview here and let’s see how we can help you to Hug that Chaos and live empowered!
Maybe coaching isn’t what you’re after, although I think we all need coaches and mentors. Having support and guidance gets us where we want to go much faster than toiling through on our own.
So if coaching isn’t for you, there’s also yoga, meditation, pranayama, and Reiki. Meditation is paramount because it teaches us to observe rather than react. Overwhelm comes from the reaction and lack of boundaries. So working with boundaries is vital for empaths. As in self-love and self-care.
Perhaps it’s crystals and service work. Essential Oils. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to heal and empower yourself as long as you are not doing it at the expense of anyone else because causing harm will take you further from your center. The key is that to clear the overwhelm and become unfuckwithable, the wounds MUST be healed. Healing the wounds is vital and necessary and best done with an experienced guide to show you how. (For context, we spend an entire month of the 3 months on this part. That’s how important it is!)
Personally, I do a blend of practices that include yoga, meditation, Buddhism, service, coaching, Reiki, crystals, pranayama, and chakra work. The constant clearing and healing of my space is paramount to the empowerment.
The key is we have to first decide to take our life back. If you truly want to become unf*ckwithable and stand in your power as an empath, you must first decide and then commit to the path. Once you close the door on any other options your way forward will become clear. I promise! The catch is that you have to take some ACTION when the opportunity to try something different shows up. Choosing to stay in the familiar will bring us right back down into the overwhelm!
Much love, Empaths! See you on the Unfuckwithable side. Hope to hear from you.